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Decreasing allegiance to marital values : Dr. Kamini Verma

Dr. Kamini Verma, Bhadohi.Indian culture is dependent on spirituality. The real happiness, peace and prosperity of human life lies in spirituality. Every work of life here is covered with trade. My reference to religion is not that of Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs or Christians, but to human religion. Those values ​​of life which are assumed in life are assimilated. The ideal of Atmanu Shastra gives Indian culture a unique place in other cultures of the world. Sanskar, Purushartha and Ashram employ life here on the feet. As a psychoanalytic arrangement, they are absorbed in human life and weigh the life path. The legislation of sixteen sacraments used in Indian culture has been taken to lift life from animalism and move towards Godhead. These rituals teach the lessons of self-control and sense nirguna.

Marriage is a sacrament in Indian culture. This is not the compromise here but the value of life giving momentum to the Srishti Chakra. The aim of the marriage is not to fulfill desire and to overcome the incompetence of life, refine and beautify one anothers personality. In the marital relationship, the human interest disappears. After marriage, the bride dedicates everything to her husband. She dedicates her body, mind and spirit to him. Her personality blends into his husband and feels his happiness as her own. The  Husband also moves towards life goals, controlling his passions, desires. The wishes of both are mutually engrossed in each other and engaged in the work of building advanced nation.
Change is the eternal law of nature. Due to the communication revolution today, conditions are changing rapidly at the global level. Due to access to communication tools, the whole world is becoming a family and ideological exchange is happening. It would not be inappropriate to say twenty-first century for the ideological revolution. Society and culture affected most by ideological revolution. Loyalty of the person and the family also changed the life and moral values ​​deviated. In the situation of women.There is a radical change in the situation. His steps are being intensely established in the public world, and he is also using the independence and his rights as a new direction to the society, which has a direct impact on the institution established by the centuries in India.
Indian society has been patriarchal since ages, in which women’s status has always been double standards. They were either considered goddess or monk. Never tried to understand his mental state as a human. Due to public awareness today women’s contemplation and vision  has changed. She is now working  out of the house wall and is successfully performing her talent and qualifications. Even after discharging the dual obligation on both sides of the house, deeply entrenched connotations and beliefs in the society are not able to accept this  role of the women. The male-dominated society does not seem to be too late to say ‘public’. The woman officer can not accept the male class openly. He always estimates the woman as weak. At home, the husband is not able to tolerate his equal or highly placed wife. Due to this mentality the man starts to beautify her with different types of wool. The ‘woman’, which has not even received ‘equal opportunity’ in the family and society, obtains a higher position by making a hard struggle, after that the situation of hostility arises between husband and wife due to stress of home and workplace. Later, the form of competitor takes shape. Rivalry is equivalent to death, which eliminates the harmonious relationship of husband and wife. As a result, both of them get separated from their married life and become oriented toward the posterity relationship where they can lead a life of peace.
Due to the bitterness of marital life, loyalty in marriage values ​​is decreasing and the post-mortem relationship has become a harsh reality of today’s life. This kind of relationship has also been seen in the form of ‘Status Symbol’ in the name of freedom and modernity.

Dr. Kamini Verma* Bhadohi (Uttar Pradesh)

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